Parish
Your wedding
at
St Marys
Congratulations on
your engagement!
We are delighted
that you are considering celebrating your marriage at St Marys. This leaflet outlines the procedure for organising
and planning the church service. We hope
it will help you in your decision-making, and take some of the stress out of
planning your wedding.
Useful Contact Information
Clergy Revd Ally Barrett (Vicar)
The Vicarage
Buckden
St Neots
PE19 5TL
01480 810371
ally.barrett@ely.anglican.org /
vicar@stmarysbuckden.org.uk
Flowers Ann Moore
01480 812577
Music John Cartwright (organist)
01480 811402
To
get to know the church people and building prior to your wedding, the best
thing is to come to our services. The
main Sunday service is at 10.30, and full details of regular service times and
special events are on our website.
We now have this booklet available as a
pdf document, Please click
HERE to view or print it.
Most
computers will open this document automatically, but you may need Adobe Reader available here
You can find more information at the Church of England's new marrige website: Click here
.
How
do I know whether I am eligible to get married in Buckden? (a)
Residence requirements Under the new marriage legislation which came into force in October 2008, couples can now marry in a parish church with which they have a qualifying connection. You can still marry in the parish church where you currently live or where you are a regular member of the congregation, but you would now also be able to marry at a church where you used to live, or where you used to be a member of the congregation (for 6 months or more) or where you were baptised or prepared for confirmation, where your parents live (or lived, during your lifetime, for 6 months or more), or where your parents or even grandparents were themselves married!
(b)
Previous marriages If either of you
has been married before, please contact the vicar as early as possible in your
planning. A previous marriage will not
necessarily make marriage in church inappropriate, but it is important to talk
through the issues at an early stage.
You will need to bring with you to the initial meeting with the vicar
your decree absolute. (c)
Other considerations If you have questions about other issues that might affect your eligibility for marriage, please contact the vicar as soon as possible. If we dont know the answer to your question, we will be able to find out for you.
What are the legal preliminaries for marriage? According to the
law, you can get married in church either after Banns, or by Licence. Calling Banns of Marriage is by far the most
common (and cheapest!) method. The law
requires that your banns be called in the parish where you will be getting
married, and in the parish(es) where each of you lives. You are responsible for contacting the parish
priests of all the applicable parishes to ensure that banns are called. The priest who marries you will need to see
all the Certificates of Banns. Most
couples enjoy coming to church to hear their banns called. What
happens when I enquire about getting married at St Marys? When you first got
in touch with the church about planning your wedding, you will have been given
this leaflet together with an application form, and will be able to fix an
initial appointment with the vicar or with the priest who will be marrying
you. You need to fill in the first page
of the form with your personal and contact details and your preferred date and
time for the service. Dont worry too
much about the second page yet, unless there are details that you wish to make
a note of. Bring this form to the
initial meeting with the priest, and they will explain what happens next. Meeting
with the priest Usually you will
have a meeting with the priest as soon as possible after you make your initial
enquiry. This meeting is to discuss
residence requirements and any other issues (e.g. previous marriages), to talk
through the decisions you will need to make about the marriage service, and to
confirm the date and time of the service; occasionally other events mean that
it is not possible to have your first choice of date or time for your
wedding. The priest may suggest a second
meeting, if it seems that there is a lot to discuss. Once you have seen
the priest for the initial interview, you may wish to use the information in
this booklet to begin to plan what music, readings, and hymns you would like to
have at your marriage service. Please
feel free to contact us if we can help you with those decisions. You will also be
given a copy of the booklet preparing for marriage, which looks beyond the wedding
day and helps you both prepare for your life together. Your priest will invite you to talk about
what you learned from working through the booklet. Please also feel free to be in contact with
your priest at any point during the process if you would like to talk through
anything - we are here to help. As the wedding day
approaches, the priest will wish to meet you again to finalise the details of
the service, and to fix a date and time for the rehearsal, which will usually
be during the week before the wedding.
The rehearsal is held in church, and is particularly for the bride and
groom, best man, chief bridesmaid and father of the bride. Many couples make this into a family event,
and invite others along, too. Planning your marriage service Order
of Service You may be getting
your order of service printed professionally, or producing it yourself. Either way, please ask the priest to send you
a copy of what needs to be included. Flowers For
all enquiries, please contact Ann Moore on 01480 812577. Couples can make their own arrangements for the
flowers using a florist / friend / relative, or can make use of the church
flower arrangers. Whatever you decide to
do, please contact Ann Moore first to let her know your plans. During Lent (the period of six weeks before Easter)
wedding flowers must be removed after the service so that they are not in
church on the Sunday. Around the time of
the major church festivals (Christmas, Easter, Harvest etc) there are already
decorations in church which may not be removed, but other flowers of the
couples choice may be added. Occasionally we have more than one wedding booked
on the same day, which means that the same flowers are used for both services. Bells We have an excellent team of bellringers.
Please confirm as soon as possible if you would like bells after your marriage
service, so that we can ensure that they will be available. Confetti We ask that you dont
use confetti in the church or churchyard, but that you save it for outside the
churchyard gates. Using lavender or similar instead of confetti
is permitted in the churchyard. Timing A standard marriage
service with one reading and two hymns usually lasts about 35 minutes. It is good if the bride aims to arrive 5
minutes early to allow time for adjusting the veil etc, and for photographs
outside the church. Dont forget to
allow time at the end of the service for more photographs etc. before heading
off for the reception. Video Couples are to
obtain a video licence from ECL Ltd (a leaflet is available from the vicar, or
you can visit www.videolicence.co.uk) Videoing should take
place discreetly and without causing any hindrance to those attending or
conducting the service, from a position either by the lectern or the pulpit, or
at the rear cross aisle. There is a
courtesy fee payable in advance of the service, and the fees for the organist
and choir are increased. Photography We allow still (non-flash) photography at the
following points in the service: -
a long shot from the rear
cross aisle during the first hymn -
a posed long shot at the
signing of the registers -
as the bridal couple are
processing out of church The current data protection legislation should be
observed if any photographs or video images are held digitally. Choosing
a reading You will need to choose
at least one reading from the New Testament.
Some popular choices include: 1 Corinthians 13 Ephesians 3.14-end Philippians 4.4-9 John 15.9-17 Colossians 3.12-17 1 John 4.7-12 John 2.1-11 If you would two Bible
readings, why not choose a reading from the Old Testament, such as Genesis 1.26-28 Song
of Solomon 2.10-13; 8.6-7 If
you do not have access to a bible, please ask your priest, who will be able to
lend you one, or give you copies of the suggested readings. Alternatively, if
you have internet access, go to http://bible.oremus.org and type in the
bible reference exactly as it is given in the list above into the first
search box. Some couples also
like to have a poem or other non-biblical reading at their wedding please do
discuss this with your priest. You may
want advice about whether a particular reading is appropriate. Choosing Hymns, songs and other music Almost all couples wish to engage the
organist. If you have a family friend
who you would like to play the organ for your service, please contact the church
organist to negotiate this. There is a
small fee for the use of the organ in this case. Some couples also wish to book the choir,
either to sing a simple anthem or to help lead the congregational singing. Let us know as soon as possible if you think
you would like to book the choir. Choosing the music
for your wedding can be a great opportunity to think about what the service
means to you, but it can also be quite daunting! Here page are some suggestions these are
just the ones that are chosen most often (usually because they are good, and
people like them!). You can also ask the
organist for advice. Choosing hymns There is usually a
hymn near the start of the service, and one near the end. If you want an extra hymn, it would usually
go after the readings. Think about the
words, and also think about whether your friends and family will know the
tune,. You can find the words and tunes
to many well-known hymns at www.cyberhymnal.org. Love divine all
loves excelling Come down, O love
divine All things
bright and beautiful Give me joy in
my heart Amazing grace Great is thy
faithfulness Dear Lord and
Father of mankind O Jesus I have
promised Be thou my
vision All creatures of our God and King One more step along the world I go Make me a channel of your peace Be still for the presence of the Lord Praise to the Lord, the Almighty Praise, my soul, the king of heaven For the beauty of the earth Lord of all hopefulness Music for the entrance and exit, and at the signing of
the register
WEDDING FEES 2007 Fee Publication of Banns Incumbent PCC £12.00 £7.00 Marriage Service Incumbent PCC £117.00 £123.00 Certificate of Banns Only for marriages taking place
elsewhere £12.00 Marriage certificate Doubled if issued other than on date of marriage £3.50 Verger £30.00 Organ Organist fee Organists
supplementary fee for video Use of the
organ £55.00 £50.00 £25.00 Choir Choir fee Choirs supplementary fee for video £65.00 £60.00 Bells £100.00 Heating not usually
needed during summer months £60.00 Video Courtesy fee £80.00 NOTES ·
Statutory fees (the first four items) are
set centrally by the Church of England, and are subject to confirmation in
January of the year in which the wedding takes place. Allow for a small increase if your wedding is
in the next calendar year. ·
Other fees are set by the PCC again,
allow for a small increase if your wedding is in the next calendar year. ·
Please make cheques payable
to St Marys Buckden PCC. You will be
sent an invoice by the treasurer, which should be paid in advance of the
wedding.
You can read the full guidelines here
. Please do ask the vicar if you are not sure.
In some circumstances a Licence (usually a Common Licence, occasionally a
Special License) would be more appropriate; the priest who is to marry you will
advise if this is the case.
Most couples
choose organ music at the entrance and exit.
During the signing of the register you might choose a choir anthem (if
you have booked the choir, and subject to availability) or an organ piece. Please make sure you have consulted the
organist and /or choir director about your choice of music if you are not
sure what exactly you want, they will be able to recommend something.
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receiving forgiveness and renewal through His death and resurrection.
We are sent out from church to live as Christian disciples, showing love to others
and living out our faith in all we think, say and do.